How often do you have negative self talk? How often do you cut yourself down, maybe call yourself a cruel name (out loud or internally), get upset with yourself for being unable to do something? I myself have gotten so used to some of my own internal negative self dialogue. I can be my biggest critic. I sometimes don't show myself enough (or any) compassion, and sometimes I certainly don't show others enough compassion. Again though, there is this idea floating around about praying for your enemies, sending them good vibes...it can alleviate our stress when we rise above and avoid letting someone's bad mood ruin our day. Instead of wishing they'd have something bad happen to them, we should wish them peace and let it go.
What if we did this to ourselves? For example, I could think "oh Shelby you're so stupid." And my own internal (or hey, audible verbal) response could be "it's ok Shelby, you're probably hitting a rough patch at the moment. I send you calming loving kindness." Cheesy cartoony therapist voice not obligatory.
...weird! Think about it, though; if I acknowledge that I am sending myself calming, healing energy, I can feel it. After watching Kathryn's video that I posed last week, I've really started to try and be more mindful of how I talk to myself - my thighs are a body part of deep concern for me, and I'm trying to correct myself each time I complain about said body part: "No, I love my thighs, they hold my bones and muscle together and allow me to walk, they're frickin' amazing."
Try it out - maybe not tell yourself how amazing your thighs are, but try and show yourself some more compassion. Send yourself some love. Rise above other people's anger and send them love, and keep your head up high while you do it. Happiness is infectious and can be more powerful than anger. It's prettier, anyway!
xx
S