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If you've ever been a client of therapy, maybe you've wondered about the other life your therapist leads. I know when I was in therapy I was curious about my therapist! I mean, we're human, we're curious by nature. But I'm about to potentially break some news to you that, well, may not sound so great. Your therapist does not want to see you in public. Your therapist does not want you to know about his or her personal life. I know, it stings a little. But let's think about this for a second - therapy takes place within a safe, confidential environment. Whatever the client presents within a session is what the therapists holds to be true, and that's what the therapist works with throughout the time that the therapeutic relationship exists. This is a very specific and protected interaction which is based solely on those 50 minutes. No, your therapist is not going to Google you, or try to find your Instagram. My training, and I cannot speak for every therapist, states that this kind of behavior would be unethical and honestly, cause a conflict of interest. Realistically, clients don't tell their therapists everything about them, or at least everything right away. And that is ok! Therapy is a place where the client can feel safe and share freely without the fear of being judged - that's key! Now, all of this isn't to say that your therapist doesn't care about you - of course they do! But in a different way. Therapists are trained to have appropriate, clear boundaries with their clients, as well as with the work itself. A therapist should try not to bring their work home with them, and should have something that provides meaning in their life outside of their work. It's all about a healthy balance, and avoiding taking on too much. You've heard the phrase, "you cannot help someone else until you've helped yourself" - the same rings true for therapists. We must maintain healthy mental and physical health so that we can efficiently help others. As for the therapist sharing personal information, this may occur naturally and appropriately in more of an anecdotal form. As my background draws from Feminist Theory, I tend to be more transparent with my students and will sometimes share personal details when I feel that it is relevant to the client. I'm very careful with what information I share, and ensure that there is a purpose behind each statement. This can help build rapport but it also allows the client to feel as though it is an equal playing field. For me, being a therapist does not mean that I know more than my client, or that I am better than my client. In it's simplest form, therapy is just two humans sitting and having a conversation. We are just catching up, and maybe every once in a while I can reflect something that invokes an increase in insight in my client.
So if you are in therapy, try to keep in mind that these boundaries are in place to protect you and your therapeutic experience. It is out of respect for you, the client, as well as the therapeutic process. - S Aparigraha. Have you heard of this word before? If you're a fellow yogi, then you likely know it: it's one of the five Yamas from Patanjali's Yoga Sutra. I've been thinking more and more about my intentions with this blog and with my own wellness path, pondering how I can incorporate yoga into my everyday life. One could start with the yamas and niyamas - but before we dive into all that (which, I may not get to for a while because I don't fully understand it all myself) let's talk about our little buddy aparigraha. It means non-posessiveness, non-attachment, avoiding greed and jealousy. How on earth do we avoid greed and needing, given the world we live today where more is more and less is sad (or cool if you're into minimalism and KonMari) and we must all BUY BUY BUY and LOOK IT'S BRAND NEW AND LIMITED RELEASE AND YOU NEED THIS OTHERWISE YOU'RE NOT COOL! Yuck. We've talked a bit about that before, buying quality over quantity and keeping in mind exactly what goes into making the clothes, food, products we buy, etc. But there's another part of aparigraha - avoiding jealousy or feelings of inadequacy. This article from YogaJournal sums it up quite well: "Aparigraha, in its essence, helps us discover our own selves so that we no longer feel the need to covet what someone else has, or be what someone else is." I think we've all had conversations, either with ourselves or with peers and friends, about how social media has greatly impacted our identities. We scroll mindlessly through our Instagram, double-tapping photos that pique our interest, photos carefully curated to reflect a perfect moment in time. How often do you suddenly feel inadequate, or look at someone else's posts and think, "I love that, I need to buy that," or "I wish I could do that," or "I wish I could travel there." We get stuck in an ugly, cruel loop of comparing ourselves to someone else, and usually that comparison is based on [again] a carefully curated moment to reflect only something positive and beautiful. Think about this for a second and reflect: in that moment, what is it that you feel? Likely, it's that feeling of not being enough, of "I wish...", of jealousy maybe, of a lack of contentment...wanting to be something we are not, or somewhere we are not, with things we may not have. What purpose does this feeling serve? Sure, it can be motivating, but it also takes a toll on our mental health and well-being. Life is too short to be our own worst enemy. It's OK and 'normal' to have these kinds of self-doubting thoughts, just don't let them take over the forefront of your mind. Today, when you scroll through your social media platforms or start to think less of yourself, remember our buddy aparigraha: Let go of the negativity. Let go of that feeling of not being enough. Remind yourself of all of your beautiful qualities that make you uniquely you. Remind yourself of what you have to offer the world - your incredible strengths. Practice non-attachment to your emotions - they are fleeting and temporary. You're only human - a really freaking great human.
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